Hey guys!
Hope you've all been having an awesome time the past week. I've just been prepping for my last english exam 2nd June and then I'm done and I can finally relax. Although today I wanted to talk about something other than just catching up stuff as you can tell by the title.
I know I'm only 16 years old (nearly 17) and not like a wise adult looking back at their teenage years but I'm currently living through my teenage years so I feel like it's more relevant to talk about it now. Hopefully some of you may be able to relate and it may help you in the future or even now.
I just feel like in today's society we are surrounded by so much negativity and hardly any positivity, I mean I get it as from the age of like 4/5yrs we are forced to go to school every single day of the week except weekends and I can accept that it's hell. However to be able to allow yourself to be a more happy person you have to allow yourself to focus on the positive aspects of your life rather than always the negatives. From personal experience, I feel like you always know someone who rarely seems to be happy and always documents themselves in a pissed off mood on twitter and facebook etc. Now these people tend to hugely exaggerate there problems to the point where I've honestly had to say to one of my friends do you enjoy being miserable and constantly being down because it's like they would never put in the effort to change. Like I know you can get sucked into this obsessive cycle of just accepting your down as you feel like you can never get out but all it takes is for you to say you know what no I can get past this and then step by step things will gradually get better.
Although saying that, I'm all down for people changing like I wont hold any of that against my friends as I've personally been there myself and I know how hard it is to get yourself back up and feeling good. But let me tell you once you do, it's the best thing I ever did. You realise it actually makes the good times in your life 100x better as you weren't in a shitty mood before and there's nothing to distract you from the good moments. Another key thing I'd say is the teenage years is all about finding yourself so it's okay to feel a little lost with yourself and who you are (yes I know that was cringey but shush). One major thing is that this means you have to be willing to just get out there and try new things even if it means stepping outside of your own comfort zone for a bit. Like I've never been the party type I'm more of a socially awkward 16 year old who hardly ever goes to parties than your stereotypical 16 year old who gets pissed all the time and is so popular. So recently I'm pretty sure I told you but I started to go to my sixth form's party that gets organised by the sixth formers for like the summer, winter etc. Now at first I didn't go because my friends didn't but then next time my friends wanted me to go and this extremely made me feel uncomfortable and made me imagine all the worst possible scenarios from happening. However I realised once I got there it wasn't even that bad and I ended up having so much fun and I'm so glad I went and now I go whenever it's on! So if you're someone like me who may be having a similar dilemma then I say just go for it, you don't have long until all of a sudden you have so much responsibility and have to pay your own bills etc. Don't take it for granted, as cliché as it sounds you have to learn how to live in the moment!
The main message that I'm attempting to spread is to just try to be more optimistic people like the next time you say no to something think to yourself why did I say no and just think you can always go to a certain event and if you don't like it you can leave. All I'm saying is to just be more adventurous and be more willing to try new things. Also if you're reading this and you know you are one of those people who may seem constantly upset just think to yourself is whoever or whatever it is worth getting so upset over. You just have to think why should I be stuck inside getting upset over some guy/girl when they will be out chilling with their mates as if nothing has happened. I know it takes time but I also know that it's even harder to get back out there so don't feel bad going to your friends or even family for help, that's what they're here for at the end of the day.
So I hope I've either helped or just shed some light on the teenage years for you people. Go out and have fun, that's what life is all about making memories and friends that will last forever and I want to introduce this new quote I've come across (definitely not saying I invented it though haha). To always remind yourself that you don't have to do what everyone else is doing. I think it's very important and have grown to love this quote as so many times people may feel like they have to do something but at the end of the day we all have free will and it's up to us whether we really want to do something or not.
Right, currently I'm in half term right now but I go back to school to start the A2 course from 8th June which is pretty pointless as so many people still have exams and all of us have to carry on the subjects we want to drop! But yeah, will talk more next week, seeya guys & remember to always keep smiling!
Sophie
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